2 Samuel 13:20

“And Absalom her brother said unto her, etc.] Either meeting her in the street, or rather when come to his house: hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? been rude with thee, and lain with thee, which is the meaning of this modest expression; which he guessed at, having heard of her being sent to his house, and knowing his lustful disposition, and seeing her in such a forlorn condition: he calls him Aminon, for so it is in the Hebrew text, and not Amnon, by way of contempt, as Kimchi observes: but hold now thy peace, my sister; be silent, take no notice of this matter, say nothing of it to the king, nor any other, keep it in thine own breast, and make thyself easy: he [is] thy brother, regard…”

“So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house--He was her natural protector, and the children of polygamists lived by themselves, as if they constituted different families.”

“Been with thee - Behold, and imitate the modesty of scripture expressions. Brother - Wherefore thou must forgive and forgot the injury; therefore thy disgracing of him will be a blot to us all; therefore thou wilt not get right from David against him, because he is as near and dear to him as thou; therefore thy dishonour is the less, because thou wast not abused by any mean person, but by a king's son; therefore this evil must be borne, because it cannot be revenged: and thus he covers his design of taking vengeance upon him at the first opportunity. Regard not - So as to torment thyself. Desolate - Through shame and dejection of mind, giving her self up to solitude and retirement. 2 Kings…”

“13:20 keep quiet for now . . . Don’t you worry about it: Absalom’s words of comfort seem hollow in light of her disgrace and mourning; this toned-down response hid Absalom’s rage (13:22) from the already distraught Tamar. • as a desolate woman: See study note on 13:16.”

“Amnon: Heb. Aminon but hold: Pro 26:24; Rom 12:19 regard not: Heb. set not thine heart on desolate: Heb. and desolate. Gen 34:2, Gen 46:15 2 Kings (2 Samuel) 13:21”